Are you a lovepat?

Posted on February 1, 2012


A friend of mine runs an e-magazine for “Third Culture Kids,” or TCKs.  Have you heard this term?  It refers to people who are raised in a culture other than their parents’.  For example, children of foreign service officers, military personnel, missionaries, or international business people are often considered TCKs.

Readers of this blog may be more likely to have kids (or one day have kids) that are considered “bicultural,” sharing traits and influences from their parents’ distinct cultures.  The identity issues involved in that balance, though, are similar to the cultural juggle of TCKs.

Likewise, people in cross-cultural relationships may also face some of the questions that arise for TCKs when they enter relationships and adulthood.  Questions like:  Where should you settle down?  Is “home” a physical place, or something else?   How do you manage relationships that cut across borders?  Who follows who in a relationship, and how should you make decisions about where to live?  Will you ever stop moving?  (Would you want to?)

In Denizen, Anna Maria Moore writes about just these issues in an article on “lovepats” — people who become expats for love. Check out the article by clicking on the photo below:

I’m curious:  Did you move to your partner’s home country?  Do you like it?  Where is “home” for you, and how did you come to that decision?

1, 2, Illustration by Lauren Pettapiece for Denizen.